Signs of an Unhappy Marriage

Sometimes relationships and marriage slide into crisis. But the quicker one or both of the couple realize the relationship is in jeopardy, the earlier they can take steps to turn things around.

There are some give-away signs that a relationship is in trouble. If your marriage has any of these signs then it’s time to face the facts and take action to save your marriage today. So read through these signs of marital unrest and consider how healthy your marriage is. Do you need to start seeking help?

Time to Talk

Lack of communication is a key cause of marital stress. Marriage is about being a couple and if you start operating as two individual people, not consulting, sharing or planning together, then this is a definite warning sign of trouble ahead.

A Secret Life

If one or both of you keep the truth from each other or fail to share information on who you see, email, text etc. then this secrecy is a signal that all is not well. Happy couples share and don’t hold back.

Too Many Arguments

The obvious sign of unhappiness is frequent bickering. This is particularly evident if the same issues rattle round over and again within arguments, never reaching resolution.

Choosing to Spend Time Away

Happy couples make time for each other. Unhappy couples plan a schedule that takes them away from their spouse, at the expense of time spent together. It’s fine to see family and friends but not if it results in a lack of time with your partner. Making a conscious choice to avoid spending time together is a sign that all is not right.

Lack of Affection

If a couple does not show affection, this has a definite affect on the relationship. Affection is not just about intimacy but also includes hugs, kisses, holding hands etc. A physical display of affection gives your spouse a boost and makes them feel appreciated and loved. The absence of this has the opposite affect and can lead to infidelity.

How did you Rate?

This list isn’t exhaustive but it does enable you to consider how you fare in these categories. If you feel, having assessed your relationship against these signs of marital unhappiness, that you have a problem, all is not lost.

Rather then try to figure it all out yourself, why not take advice from experts who have already helped thousands of people across the globe. Find out how to save your marriage today.

How do you Discuss Marital Problems?

Finding Out What's Wrong

Discussion of your problems needs to happen at a time and place that is conducive to good communication. This means no distractions and no tight timescales before one of you needs to dash off.

Effective communication is also enhanced by:

• Being honest but not brutally so - always considering each others feelings as you talk
• Actively listening to each other
• Talking in a calm way, without apportioning blame and sticking to the facts as you see them.
•  Keeping your body language positive; aim to maintain eye contact and even hold hands.

Use your discussion to identify core marital problems.

Putting Things Right

You’ve decided to save your marriage. You’ve discussed what’s gone wrong. The next and hardest step is to work towards a solution. 

There are all sorts of creative ways to move forward. Some simply involve agreeing to put the past behind you. 

For others there needs to be an acceptance of a new start, this may include regular communication, a more positive way of dealing with day-to-day stresses and finding more time for each other.

There is help at hand for those needing assistance in saving a marriage. Understanding useful marriage-saving tips and strategies can play an enormous part in helping to save a marriage that may otherwise have headed for divorce.

Give Less to Receive More

If you are desperate to keep your relationship alive it might be tempting to crank up the level of contact with your spouse. However, take care not to cross the line from being attentive to becoming an ever-present, rather annoying shadow.

By keeping communication to a minimum you are giving them a chance to breathe. Remind your partner that you care with brief text messages and short phone calls or emails but don’t overwhelm them with constant contact.

Sometimes in life, less is more. Don’t bombard your partner with your thoughts and feelings throughout the day, send them teasers or tell them you have a funny story to tell them in the evening. Give your spouse time to look forward to being with you. Save up your news for when you are together and share special moments when you have the time and space to appreciate each other. 


It's simple techniques like this that can bring your love back and help to save your marriage.

Where do I Start?

Every marriage has its ups and downs. However, sometimes a marriage can go into a downward spiral and it can take time, effort and the right techniques to save your marriage.

This blog will hopefully inspire you and your partner to try out different methods that could put the magic back into your marriage.

Our simple ideas and resources may help you to find happiness with each other again. With so many marriages failing, let us help you to fix yours up and make it stronger than ever.